Here are a few examples
Tuesday, 23 April 2013
Creative moi
Another sunny day..wow..has Spring finally sprung (literally) upon us? Fingers crossed. So Ayaan woke up at 5.30am for some completely beyond logical reason..and so I find myself half asleep at 2.30pm trying to write and make sense at the same time...apologies if I don't! I spent this morning writing up what I need for a new website I am hoping to develop in order to sell my hand painted votives. Yes I'm taking that first teeny tiny step towards actually selling my little creations. Well I painted around 250 votives for my sister's wedding earlier this month and they got a pretty good reception so let's see if anyone may want to spend a few £££ to buy them.
Here are a few examples
Here are a few examples
Monday, 22 April 2013
Life is a journey
I've had a realllllly long break...I hate blaming being a new mum on my lack of blogging but it's the truth. Actually I'm not really that new a mum, my little boy turned 2 this month and I have no idea where the time has gone. I thought it was about time I came back to my chocolate barfi online presence ..a lot has happened in the last couple of years the most recent being made redundant late last year.
I didn't realise quite how redundancy would affect me but it has truly been one of the worst things to go through. I have been unemployed now for 6 months but to tell you the truth I wasn't properly looking as I had to have shoulder surgery in February. Am just about healed so now I'm wondering 'what next..?'
I didn't realise quite how redundancy would affect me but it has truly been one of the worst things to go through. I have been unemployed now for 6 months but to tell you the truth I wasn't properly looking as I had to have shoulder surgery in February. Am just about healed so now I'm wondering 'what next..?'
Friday, 18 November 2011
Brent closes 6 libraries
I'm so sad..the library where I spent many a Saturday afternoon reading away the hours, has been shut as part of a cost saving exercise by Brent council. Tokyngton library is a small little library on the edge of what used to be my local park..I was a regular visitor, the library being the one place where my mother thought I wouldn't get into trouble..she was actually right. I was far too busy being introduced to Enid Blyton's The Famous Five, The Secret Seven, or Nancy Drew and the Hardy Boys..I'd finish a book in an hour or so and eagerly pick up another to devour. I'd then take the maximum six books allowed per library card, home with me; a world of possibilities waiting for me to explore in the hundred or so pages within each book.
I have many happy memories of summer holidays spent at Tokyngton library, it felt like a safe haven and a base for me to sit unbothered while reading myself into another world.
I now take my 7 month old son to our local library. He actually first went when he was around 10 weeks old. I want him to be as in love with books as I am and I'm hoping being part of the government's Bookstart scheme will help encourage him to read more than a few comic books by the time he's a teenager.
It amazes me when people say that many children in London have never owned a book of their own or even been read to...with the closures of the libraries in Brent I fear this will be a sad reality for even more children.
Friday, 12 August 2011
The Riots
The last week in London and around major cities in England has seen some of the worst rioting and looting that I have ever seen. Not even the rioting in Tottenham and Brixton in the 80s during my childhood compare. Events were sparked off by the shooting dead by police officers of Mark Duggan in Tottenham. This is still part of a police enquiry but the days after his death saw local businesses trashed, homes burnt to the ground, shops vandalised and looted and the murder of 3 men in Birmingham, a man in Croydon, and a man in Ealing.
Even while I am writing these words I feel a sense of bewilderment, shock, sadness, anger...a mix of emotions that I cannot succinctly put my finger on. What is so different to these riots to the ones that have occurred in the past..the level of violence?..the sense of complete loss of control? The images of London these last few days will linger in my mind for a very long time to come. This is my city, the city I was born and bred in and the city I continue to live in. The words of Tariq Jahan the father of one of the boys mowed down by a car whilst trying to protect his street, brought tears to my eyes... Here was a man who had lost his son and yet was able to appeal for calm in his community. Would I be so dignified? I don't know and I don't ever want to find out.
I, like many people am trying to make sense of what has happened..a bit of soul searching..looking for reasons as to why this has happened..poverty? deprivation? greed? consumerism? societal breakdown? bad parenting? racism? Maybe it's a bit of everything..
As I end this post, I just want to mention the comments I have come across that have blamed multi culturalism and some comments that have blamed this on black people. It is easy to blame black people when it comes to riots because you will see their faces...we don't yet know what the numbers are in terms of race if that's what is being looked at...but in the same breath as blaming black people, should we start looking at the racial make up of the bankers who have systematically brought the world's economy to its knees...or the MPs who fiddled their expenses?..'fiddled' is such a nice word to use instead of stealing. If we have leaders who are morally corrupt, what hope is there for the rest of us?
Even while I am writing these words I feel a sense of bewilderment, shock, sadness, anger...a mix of emotions that I cannot succinctly put my finger on. What is so different to these riots to the ones that have occurred in the past..the level of violence?..the sense of complete loss of control? The images of London these last few days will linger in my mind for a very long time to come. This is my city, the city I was born and bred in and the city I continue to live in. The words of Tariq Jahan the father of one of the boys mowed down by a car whilst trying to protect his street, brought tears to my eyes... Here was a man who had lost his son and yet was able to appeal for calm in his community. Would I be so dignified? I don't know and I don't ever want to find out.
I, like many people am trying to make sense of what has happened..a bit of soul searching..looking for reasons as to why this has happened..poverty? deprivation? greed? consumerism? societal breakdown? bad parenting? racism? Maybe it's a bit of everything..
As I end this post, I just want to mention the comments I have come across that have blamed multi culturalism and some comments that have blamed this on black people. It is easy to blame black people when it comes to riots because you will see their faces...we don't yet know what the numbers are in terms of race if that's what is being looked at...but in the same breath as blaming black people, should we start looking at the racial make up of the bankers who have systematically brought the world's economy to its knees...or the MPs who fiddled their expenses?..'fiddled' is such a nice word to use instead of stealing. If we have leaders who are morally corrupt, what hope is there for the rest of us?
Friday, 3 June 2011
The 50 million missing campaign
I just wanted to raise awareness of an issue which continues to outrage and disgust me. I'm not sure how prevalent it is in other countries around the world but in India it seems to be on the increase.
Female infanticide is not a new phenomena but modern technology in the way of ultrasound scans has opened up a whole new way in which to abort female foetuses without the bother of giving birth and burying a baby when it is found to be a girl.
When I last went to India about 8 years ago I was intrigued by the number of ultrasound and gynae clinics that had opened in Delhi. Billboards showed happy couples holding a baby and a list of ailments and issues that could be investigated from infertility to 'sex problems'. I had heard of how many of these clinics were offering scans to find out the sex of babies but had not realised that many women ended up aborting their female babies.
According to this recent article in the Guardian up to 6 million female foetuses have been aborted in India over the last decade!
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2011/may/24/india-families-aborting-girl-babies
Please have a look at this website and support their work and if possible raise awareness of this horrendous and disgusting practice.
http://50millionmissing.wordpress.com/
Female infanticide is not a new phenomena but modern technology in the way of ultrasound scans has opened up a whole new way in which to abort female foetuses without the bother of giving birth and burying a baby when it is found to be a girl.
When I last went to India about 8 years ago I was intrigued by the number of ultrasound and gynae clinics that had opened in Delhi. Billboards showed happy couples holding a baby and a list of ailments and issues that could be investigated from infertility to 'sex problems'. I had heard of how many of these clinics were offering scans to find out the sex of babies but had not realised that many women ended up aborting their female babies.
According to this recent article in the Guardian up to 6 million female foetuses have been aborted in India over the last decade!
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2011/may/24/india-families-aborting-girl-babies
Please have a look at this website and support their work and if possible raise awareness of this horrendous and disgusting practice.
http://50millionmissing.wordpress.com/
Thursday, 19 May 2011
Social Etiquette- a lost art?
I've been meaning to touch upon the subject of social etiquette for a while but have always been side tracked or left wondering if it's at all worth giving my two pennies on a subject that sometimes leaves me slightly speechless..
Social etiquette is supposedly a set of behaviours based on societal norms, (see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Etiquette). These behaviours would include things like communication, manners, social interaction and dress. In this day and age many of these norms have become almost global or at least for those with access to a global audience. These would typically manifest themselves in a work environment with a cross cultural and societal workforce. For example, one wouldn't think twice about shaking a woman's hand in England, but would the same apply to Saudi Arabia?
Part of social etiquette is at least the ability to recognise that there can be differences in societal norms depending on what part of the world you're from..social etiquette can also adapt to smaller groups such as the ability to know how to socially interact with peers as opposed to those who may have a more senior position in your circle of acquaintances...without even recognising the possibility of these differences and their impact on your behaviour, social etiquette, in my opinion, goes out of the window.
The reason for me writing about this..well I don't know if it's just me but I keep coming across what I see as lack of social etiquette and basic manners. Don't get me wrong, I'm no Ms prim and proper but what I do acknowledge is the difference in my behaviour, my speech, my tone, and sometimes my dress depending on where I am and who I'm talking to. Is it too much to ask therefore to expect the same from others? I'm not saying that people should be chameleons, changing their 'colours' at the drop of a hat..what I'm saying is that people should have enough sense to know what is appropriate behaviour and what isn't.
A personal example of this is a comment made recently by an 'auntyji', a long time acquaintance of my mother who felt the need to tell me that I'd put on a lot of weight since she last saw me 6 years ago. Bearing in mind this was 2 weeks after I had given birth to my son, I thought this was a slightly misplaced comment and regardless of when it was said, quite rude. What made this comment worse was that she said it within 5 minutes of coming into the room and in front of a bunch of people. You're probably thinking she was some uneducated woman with little care for such mundane matters as etiquette..hmmm..well you need to meet this woman's daughter in law who a few years back tried to impress me by telling me all about her French classes at the French institute and how hard it all was..that was until I told her I had studied French at university and had lived in Paris for a year...Wooomffffff...I practically saw her deflate in front of me...Nope this auntyji had no idea about what was appropriate in conversation and probably thought she was doing me a favour by telling me about my weight..duh lady I think I've noticed!
The reason I'm writing this post is to remind people that to make conversation and to behave appropriately is an art. It isn't taught in schools or universities so it doesn't mean a bachelors degree will somehow automatically teach you social etiquette. Nor does money buy you manners. It comes with a certain humility, a level of interaction with people and observation. So the next time you feel the need to comment on someone's weight, height, looks, dress etc etc don't feel like you have to hold back but at least try and figure out a way in which you don't sound like rude oaf!
Social etiquette is supposedly a set of behaviours based on societal norms, (see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Etiquette). These behaviours would include things like communication, manners, social interaction and dress. In this day and age many of these norms have become almost global or at least for those with access to a global audience. These would typically manifest themselves in a work environment with a cross cultural and societal workforce. For example, one wouldn't think twice about shaking a woman's hand in England, but would the same apply to Saudi Arabia?
Part of social etiquette is at least the ability to recognise that there can be differences in societal norms depending on what part of the world you're from..social etiquette can also adapt to smaller groups such as the ability to know how to socially interact with peers as opposed to those who may have a more senior position in your circle of acquaintances...without even recognising the possibility of these differences and their impact on your behaviour, social etiquette, in my opinion, goes out of the window.
The reason for me writing about this..well I don't know if it's just me but I keep coming across what I see as lack of social etiquette and basic manners. Don't get me wrong, I'm no Ms prim and proper but what I do acknowledge is the difference in my behaviour, my speech, my tone, and sometimes my dress depending on where I am and who I'm talking to. Is it too much to ask therefore to expect the same from others? I'm not saying that people should be chameleons, changing their 'colours' at the drop of a hat..what I'm saying is that people should have enough sense to know what is appropriate behaviour and what isn't.
A personal example of this is a comment made recently by an 'auntyji', a long time acquaintance of my mother who felt the need to tell me that I'd put on a lot of weight since she last saw me 6 years ago. Bearing in mind this was 2 weeks after I had given birth to my son, I thought this was a slightly misplaced comment and regardless of when it was said, quite rude. What made this comment worse was that she said it within 5 minutes of coming into the room and in front of a bunch of people. You're probably thinking she was some uneducated woman with little care for such mundane matters as etiquette..hmmm..well you need to meet this woman's daughter in law who a few years back tried to impress me by telling me all about her French classes at the French institute and how hard it all was..that was until I told her I had studied French at university and had lived in Paris for a year...Wooomffffff...I practically saw her deflate in front of me...Nope this auntyji had no idea about what was appropriate in conversation and probably thought she was doing me a favour by telling me about my weight..duh lady I think I've noticed!
The reason I'm writing this post is to remind people that to make conversation and to behave appropriately is an art. It isn't taught in schools or universities so it doesn't mean a bachelors degree will somehow automatically teach you social etiquette. Nor does money buy you manners. It comes with a certain humility, a level of interaction with people and observation. So the next time you feel the need to comment on someone's weight, height, looks, dress etc etc don't feel like you have to hold back but at least try and figure out a way in which you don't sound like rude oaf!
Wednesday, 18 May 2011
Wow has it been that long??!
Gosh, my last post was back in December. It's really been 5 months??!! Time has flown by and I'm now une maman...yup, motherhood beckoned and I welcomed it with open arms:)...our little bundle of joy arrived on April 1st..hahahaha...I tried to cross my legs but it didn't work since he was born by emergency c section ...we named our son 'Ayaan' which in Arabic means 'gift from God' and he truly is a wonderful gift..the last few weeks have been to be honest a bit of a blur. I came home 2 days after Ayaan was born and to the noted disapproval of our midwife. She wanted me in an extra day and I was adamant that I wanted to take my baby home.
Tired? who me?
The following hours, days and weeks after the birth have been a constant series of feeding, nappy changes, sleepless nights, crying (both Ayaan and myself), more feeding, more nappy changes, lots of visitors etc etc..you get the idea. I must admit that even though I have been brought up amongst lots of children and my mother was a nursery teacher, nothing prepared me for having a baby of my own.
Breast is best- but boy does it hurt!
I didn't have the easiest of pregnancies, lots of scares and visits to the hospital, regular appointments with our consultant and scans every month..I kept thinking throughout the 9 months that once the baby was in my arms I would be ok. Ha! I sometimes find myself checking up on Ayaan to see if he's still breathing, I worry that he isn't being fed enough, although that's pretty much down to people saying he's hungry whenever he even so much as whimpers...I just want to say that breastfed babies tend to feed more often than totally formula fed babies as the breast milk digests quicker thus the baby gets hungry. I've just had to bite my tongue sometimes when everyone profers their opinions even if it's been upsetting.
Breastfeeding is tough; especially if you're a total anti Gina Ford (like moi) and feed on demand. I'm lucky that I have words of encouragement from other mothers who have chosen to breast feed, but I found it hard sitting there for hours on end, especially at night staring at the four walls. I've now chosen to use formula for 2 of Ayaan's feeds which helps him settle down for a bit longer than he would. Have I felt guilty about this? Hell yes..I was adamant I wanted to exclusively breastfeed as this is what is best. The addition of formula was more for my sake than for Ayaan's. I've realised though, that instead of heaping expectations upon myself, I just need to find the right balance and approach. I'm trying to make this my mantra...
Anyway, Ayaan is nearly 7 weeks old and is a real character. He smiles lots, cries lots, feeds lots and poos lots..:)..I never know where the day goes and I really look forward to Atif coming home so I get a bit of adult conversation, even if that conversation is centred around all things baby:)
Baby changing rooms
We've taken Ayaan out quite a bit as I don't want him to get too used to being home alone with me. I even managed to take him on public transport to do a bit of shopping...yay, what an achievement! The real test will be this Friday when I take him into London to visit daddy's office..hmmmmmmmmm...this is probably the only time I wish I had an iphone as there's a cool little app that shows where all the decent baby changing facilities are. Trust me, when you have a screaming hungry baby and you're out and about, it's one of the most stressful things ever...it's been enough to reduce me to tears and wish I hadn't gone out.
I'm now on a mission to name and shame bad baby changing facilities and I'll start off with Hounslow Treaty shopping centre. What idiot thought is was a good idea to have music blasting into a baby room where mothers may want to feed and soothe their babies? I took Ayaan and the place stank of urine, had loud music and had these awful plastic chairs that wouldn't be amiss in a prison. We lasted about 10 minutes in there, enough for me to calm him down and then ended up in starbucks to calm me down!!! Anyway, if anyone out there comes across a very good, or very bad baby changing room, please feel free to let me know and I'll add it to my list.
Anyway, Ayaan is just about to get up and so I'd better wrap this up pdq...just a quick nod to Tamreez for kickstarting my blogging again.http://blog.asimandtamreez.co.uk
Tired? who me?
The following hours, days and weeks after the birth have been a constant series of feeding, nappy changes, sleepless nights, crying (both Ayaan and myself), more feeding, more nappy changes, lots of visitors etc etc..you get the idea. I must admit that even though I have been brought up amongst lots of children and my mother was a nursery teacher, nothing prepared me for having a baby of my own.
Breast is best- but boy does it hurt!
I didn't have the easiest of pregnancies, lots of scares and visits to the hospital, regular appointments with our consultant and scans every month..I kept thinking throughout the 9 months that once the baby was in my arms I would be ok. Ha! I sometimes find myself checking up on Ayaan to see if he's still breathing, I worry that he isn't being fed enough, although that's pretty much down to people saying he's hungry whenever he even so much as whimpers...I just want to say that breastfed babies tend to feed more often than totally formula fed babies as the breast milk digests quicker thus the baby gets hungry. I've just had to bite my tongue sometimes when everyone profers their opinions even if it's been upsetting.
Breastfeeding is tough; especially if you're a total anti Gina Ford (like moi) and feed on demand. I'm lucky that I have words of encouragement from other mothers who have chosen to breast feed, but I found it hard sitting there for hours on end, especially at night staring at the four walls. I've now chosen to use formula for 2 of Ayaan's feeds which helps him settle down for a bit longer than he would. Have I felt guilty about this? Hell yes..I was adamant I wanted to exclusively breastfeed as this is what is best. The addition of formula was more for my sake than for Ayaan's. I've realised though, that instead of heaping expectations upon myself, I just need to find the right balance and approach. I'm trying to make this my mantra...
Anyway, Ayaan is nearly 7 weeks old and is a real character. He smiles lots, cries lots, feeds lots and poos lots..:)..I never know where the day goes and I really look forward to Atif coming home so I get a bit of adult conversation, even if that conversation is centred around all things baby:)
Baby changing rooms
We've taken Ayaan out quite a bit as I don't want him to get too used to being home alone with me. I even managed to take him on public transport to do a bit of shopping...yay, what an achievement! The real test will be this Friday when I take him into London to visit daddy's office..hmmmmmmmmm...this is probably the only time I wish I had an iphone as there's a cool little app that shows where all the decent baby changing facilities are. Trust me, when you have a screaming hungry baby and you're out and about, it's one of the most stressful things ever...it's been enough to reduce me to tears and wish I hadn't gone out.
I'm now on a mission to name and shame bad baby changing facilities and I'll start off with Hounslow Treaty shopping centre. What idiot thought is was a good idea to have music blasting into a baby room where mothers may want to feed and soothe their babies? I took Ayaan and the place stank of urine, had loud music and had these awful plastic chairs that wouldn't be amiss in a prison. We lasted about 10 minutes in there, enough for me to calm him down and then ended up in starbucks to calm me down!!! Anyway, if anyone out there comes across a very good, or very bad baby changing room, please feel free to let me know and I'll add it to my list.
Anyway, Ayaan is just about to get up and so I'd better wrap this up pdq...just a quick nod to Tamreez for kickstarting my blogging again.http://blog.asimandtamreez.co.uk
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